GROW Up in Christ

GROW Up in Christ

TEXT: Ephesians 4:14-16

Last week, from the first part of Ephesians that you heard read today (4:11-13) we talked about God’s gifts to us. We talked about “the great gift” of God’s grace, whereby God made us alive, raised us, and seated us with Him out of love and a desire to show us that love. We also talked about additional gifts God has given us, providing for each Christian to be equipped for works of service and the building up of the community of Christ. Paul used the image of a body, with Christ as the head, to help us envision what the Christian community was supposed to look like.

In today’s text, these thoughts and analogy continue. Verse 14 begins, “As a result…” and all this that has gone before is what stands behind that. As a result of God’s great gift, as a result of the gift of being equipped to worship and serve, and as a result of the gift of being in the body-like community of Christ, Paul continues with verses 14-16. As a result of all this, and to say it bluntly, Paul says, “Grow up!… Don’t settle for being immature Christians, stunted and stuck in your spiritual development, but grow up!” God has provided all you need for this, just like He has designed the human body to grow up from childhood to maturity. This is a message for the Church, for the gathered Christian community; it is a message for us!

No Longer Children…

There are two parts to Paul’s message here. The first is that “we are no longer to be children.” Child-like faith, yes; immature, no. Now remember, Paul is not just describing individual Christian maturity, but the related maturity of the gathered Christian community, which is a kind of inter-related sum of the parts. He is challenging us individually and corporately to not remain contentedly stuck as an under-developed body.

To explain he adds another analogy. The immature church is “tossed here and there by waves and carried about by every wind” (v. 14). The image is one of a small boat at sea, tossed and blown about with little to no control or direction. The result is one of helplessness and lostness. Specifically, the winds and waves of his metaphor are false teaching, deceit, and human scheming. One of the primary ways that spiritual immaturity misdirects the church as a whole is when its members are captive to new fads and novel ideas that blow through our culture. There is always something, but right now I can’t help but think of the influence media and social media have had on our culture, Christians included. Media has always influenced us, but the rise of computers and social media harnessed to make money off our consumption has resulted in being fed whatever will generate more clicks and views rather than seeking truth.

To a point this works nicely. My parents have commented in amazement about it. My dad watches one of his favorite musicians on his computer and more videos of that musician show up on his phone, on his computer, and on his television. But that can also be dangerous when the same techniques are used to deliver us news or other content that is supposed to contain truth. The thing about truth is that it sometimes rubs us the wrong way. Sometimes it confronts and challenges and stretches us and our first inclination is to change the channel or scroll on by. How does that work out if our computer-driven consumption makes turning from truth not only easy, but the default!?

No wonder, then, that Ephesians 4 turns next to the topic of truth!


In stark contrast to immaturity and being tossed to and fro, Paul provides the mature alternative: “BUT, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up…” (v. 15). The first phrase sets off the key difference between immaturity and maturity. Immaturity is distracted and diverted by what is false, but perhaps alluring; maturity is signaled by an earnest desire to speak and hear truth, recognizing that the chief motivation for truth is love.

That truth is not found through the algorithm that serves us up the images, news, and truths we most want to hear. Rather, God’s Word is truth, sharper than a two-edged sword and piercing heart and bone and marrow… but also making us whole. Truth and love are not always the easiest path – indeed, often they are the hardest, like rowing a small boat through pitching waves and strong winds (to maintain the metaphor). But it is striving for loving truth that develops a mature and healthy Christian community, both individually and corporately.

Any parent should recognize what Paul is saying here. While dinners of candy and ice cream would seem to produce happy children, a truly grown-up parent recognizes that feeding children this way is not the loving thing to do, but is actually a cruel thing to do. This example is simple enough with young children, though even then the looks one gets for making children “eat their vegetables,” “brush your teeth,” and “drink this medicine” are enough to melt the strongest heart. And it only gets more challenging from there. Every parent and teenager struggles through the heart-rending storm of boundary-setting, losing and gaining trust, and wanting to give in to what is easy over what is right. These examples hint at what is involved in growing up spiritually. One of the hardest things to speak and one of the hardest things to hear sometimes is the truth. And yet this is what God says is spiritual growth hormone! Loving truth is what grows us up and trains us not to go running after easy lies. And this is why Paul mentions it in this context: there should be no more supporting and safe place to do this than in the family of God.

At least that is God’s design for the Church. Churches can, of course, be just as dysfunctional as families, and the maturity and community of churches have been tested in new and extreme ways in the last several years. But that’s exactly Paul’s point here. God’s design and desire for us is that we grow up to be a mature expression of Christ’s body. And the point of verse 16 is that as goes the health of the parts, so goes the health of the whole. The way the Church works is not like 150 worker bees… each adding a little to the overall total. Rather, we are like the human body, with many necessary parts. With Christ as our head and the Holy Spirit working in and through us, God has knit us together to be a functioning whole.

A Healthy, Growing Body

What that means is that each one of you is vital for the health and growth of this church. If you are not connected or plugged in or participating or exploring and doing personal ministry and mission, then we are not “one man down,” we are running a race with a broken leg! Look carefully at the end of verse 16 – I had to re-read this several times to see it. Do you see the phrase “causes the growth of the body?” What is it that causes the growth of the body? You might say, “God,” and you’d be partly right. God designed the body for growth, whether the human body or the church body. But it is the proper working of the parts with the whole that God has made to cause the growth. To compare this to the human body: God designed us to grow, but we must exercise, rest, eat, and take care of the body for it to grow properly. So it is with the body of this church. God designed us to grow and function as Christ’s body. But in order to do that, we must feed, rest, exercise, and care for THIS body.

There is a gospel song we learned and sang a number of years ago called “I Need You to Survive.” It is taken from this passage in Ephesians. The point is not that we don’t need God to survive; that is foundational and true. But God has also designed us to need each other to survive and to thrive as a church… as His body.

I need you, you need me; we’re all a part of God’s body.
Stand with me, agree with me; we’re all a part of God’s body.
It is His will that every need be supplied
You are important to me; I need you to survive.

The song also picks up on the part about “speaking truth in love”:

I pray for you, you pray for me
I love you; I need you to survive
I won’t harm you with words from my mouth
I love you; I need you to survive.

Dwell on those words – we need to soak in those and take them to heart.

How are You Doing?

So how are you doing? How are we doing? Can you envision our life together as a fully-grown body? I’m not saying that we are not partway there… we are. Many of you have discovered your role in the body of Christ. Yet, we continue to be distracted by the waves and wind, new storms in a new season of life. Church is one commitment among many rather than our IDENTITY as the Body of Jesus Christ. Hear God’s Word to you today: we need you to survive; we need you to grow and to grow up, to seek and speak the truth in love, to find your ministry and mission and connect to this body as living tissue connects the parts of your body.

If you are not already plugged into a ministry or mission of this church, read the Voice or talk to me about how God might use you as part of this Body. If we are not doing something that you think God wants you to do, come tell me and we’ll do it! A number of our exciting new ministries have started because people did exactly that. Come explore with me. We need you, not to be a church doing lots of things, but to be healthy and to survive.

If you are not regularly reading, listening to, and meeting points of view different than your own, do that. It is one of the best ways to examine what you are taking in. And above all, hold all that up to the light of God’s Word of Truth. The Truth will often stretch and challenge you, because growth is rarely and easy and comfortable thing. But it is health and life and good!

May God grab hold of your imagination, heart, and mind, and not let us go! Amen.

Some Music Used

  • Prelude
    • God of Wonders
    • Reckless Love
    • Build My Life
  • CHOIR: Rejoice This Day
  • One Pure and Holy Passion
  • These Hands
  • Come as You Are
  • CHOIR: He Reigns (Sanctus)
  • Come All Christians, Be Committed